We had our 20-week ultrasound on Wednesday. Oh, it was so sweet to see the baby's face and hands and feet and heart and spine and...ahem, well...IT'S A BOY! And it looks like he'll be a hockey fan like JK already is.
I have been referring to the baby as "he" for the entire pregnancy, and teaching JK to say "baby brother". But I can't say that I knew his gender like I did with JK. It was more just having fun thinking of something different. That said, there were several old-wives-tales that slowly started to convince me that we were having a boy this time. For one thing, I'm still getting sick occasionally and I'm still having migranes. With JK, both symptoms stopped more than a month earlier in the pregnancy. For another, this baby's heart rate is faster than JK's was. 150-160 bpm. JK's was 140.
Anyway, since telling friends and family, there has been a comment that bothers me. Since we will have a girl and a boy, a couple of people have said "Now you'll have a perfect family!" While I know both people only wish us the best and are thrilled for us, I can't help but be annoyed.
Was our one-child family imperfect before? Would having two girls make our family imperfect? I am not the type of person to stress about wanting a particular gender, though I do understand those who do have that desire. I am quite certain that I would have been just as happy with all boys or all girls.
Each type of family has wonderful blessings, and to me, each type is perfect.
My perfect family just happens to have one girl and one boy so far.
PS: If the people who made the comment read this, don't feel bad. I really did take your comments in the kind and loving spirit they were meant! My annoyance is not directed at you or your comments, but rather at society's view of "perfection". You know, the mom-dad-boy-girl model. Love you!